“Human maturity is neither offensive nor defensive; it is finally able to accept that reality is what it is. Ken Keyes so wisely said, “More suffering comes into the world by people taking offense than by people intending to give offense.” The offended ones feel the need to offend back those who think they have offended them, creating defensiveness on the part of the presumed offenders, which often becomes a new offensive– ad inifinitum. There seems to be no way out of this self-defeating and violent Ping-Pong game– except growing up spiritually. The True Self, you see, is very hard to offend.”

— Richard Rohr, Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life